Fun Day Sunday: A Grati 25th Anniversary Portrait Dilemma, March 01, 2015 Gratiana Lovelace (Post #711)

I have a dilemma.   It isn’t Earth shattering and it only affects me. But it has been wearing on my mind for a few weeks now since I made the appointment to have our 25th Anniversary portrait taken. How do I wear my hair in ten days for our portrait sitting?

I know, it’s very shallow of me to worry about my hair. But this picture will probably hound me for the rest of my life–and even after. It being propped up for all to see at my funeral reception–40 years from now, god willing.

Is it wrong of me to want to look good? Young and beautiful is out of the question, but pleasing might be within my realm of possibility. If only the world viewed me with rose colored glasses as my dear sweet hubby does. Sighhh!

And then there is the issue of what I wear for our portrait–only small prints was the suggestion OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAfrom our photographer, which I took to mean solid colors. My favorite navy blue dress with an asymmetrical overblouse jacket in the same pattern as the dress is a mass of small randomly shaped dots similar to this image at upper right, that would probably be overpowering in a photographic sense. Bummer! So at the moment, my teal blue rayon GratiJune2011TealBlueDress-mask1cropdress that I wore to my 20th High School Reunion several years ago is winning out with its monochromatic vertically ruched look (if you look really close, lower right) and scooped neckline–tastefully not showing the breast crevice of my girls, and hopefully, drawing the viewer’s eyes away from my chins.

And no amount of dramatic eye makeup will counteract for my chins. But I’m willing to try. false-eyelashes_Feb2815sheknowsHa! Would heavier eye make-up and false eyelashes be too bold? Ha! I’m willing to try them. These eyelashes  (right) looks gorgeous!

So I have been searching for hair styles that will allow me to retain my hair length–since I have been growing it out for several years now and I’m about a year away from getting it chopped off for Locks of Love–and still look flattering. And I have searched the internet for similarly chubby ladies who look great for my style icons: the talented actresses Melissa McCarthy, Queen Latifah, and Kathy Bates.

1) First to Melissa McCarthy: What is not to love here? Melissa (right) is eleven yearzMelissaMcCarthy--bouffant-hair-with-soft-curls-over-shoulders_Feb2815s my junior at 44 years, so she has no wrinkles to speak of on her pretty face. She has a dynamite sense of humor. And she has really great hair–full and flowing in soft curls about her shoulders. I have bangs, but I might be able train them to one side. Nah! I wonder if the photographer would be willing to put Melissa’s head and hair on my body in portrait poses with my hubby? Would that be too misleading? Hmmm.

2) Then we have Queen Latifah:   She is also eleven years younger than I am. And I have already posted about her being my style icon, here. She proudly wears beautiful gowns that she looks stunning in (right). I wonder if George Chakra Couture would make me an outfit for my portrait sitting?

3) Finally, there is Kathy Bates: At 68, she is thirteen years old than I am. But I found this Kathy-Bates-bangs-andflip-32511333-426-640_Feb2815fanpopcomstunning image of her with bangs and great makeup (lower right). And her makeup here is flawless! I have to wonder if this is just a good makeup job–please let me know who did you, Kathy–or if she has been freshened. Either way, she looks great! I should be so lucky. Ha!


Anyway, back to my hair and such. Below are various hair styles for long hair and makeup that I am considering wearing for our 25th wedding anniversary portrait. I seek your help in choosing the right style for my round face and chubby cheeks.

A. Full flowing curls    B. Some Baby Spice         C.  Fit for a Princess      D. KISS-tastic

zMelissaMcCarthy--bouffant-hair-with-soft-curls-over-shoulders_Feb2815crop            EmmaBuntonposter-asBabySpice_Feb2815modthesims             PrincessLeiaEarBunHair-is-CarrieFisher_Feb2815dailmailcouk-crop      Paul_Stanley_Kiss-hair_Feb2815scoobydoowikia


So please vote for your favorite look. Thanks!

About Gratiana Lovelace

Gratiana Lovelace is my nom de plume for my creative writing and blogging. I write romantic stories in different sub genres. The stories just tumble out of me. My resurgence in creative writing occurred when I viewed the BBC miniseries of Elizabeth Gaskell's novel North & South in February 2010. The exquisitely talented British actor portraying the male lead John Thornton in North & South--Richard Crispin Armitage--became my unofficial muse. I have written over 50 script stories about love--some are fan fiction, but most are original stories--that I am just beginning to share with others on private writer sites, and here on my blog. And as you know, my blog here is also relatively new--since August 2011. But, I'm having fun and I hope you enjoy reading my blog essays and my stories. Cheers! Grati ;-> upd 12/18/11
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6 Responses to Fun Day Sunday: A Grati 25th Anniversary Portrait Dilemma, March 01, 2015 Gratiana Lovelace (Post #711)

  1. jholland says:

    I’m sure you will look lovely, Grati, because I have a feeling you’ll have your warmth and your love for your husband shining through, and that’s what counts. From a quilter’s perspective, I have to say that when I hear the phrase “small print fabric”, I think of something exactly like the dotted fabric you showed above. Pretty sure the photographer was recommending you don’t wear anything with a large print, such as gigantic flowers or anything where the fabric design elements are bigger than say 1 cm. I’m sure a solid would do just as well, though, in that it won’t present a big distraction from your face. Also, when I had my maternity photos done, I’d gained quite a bit of weight and the “chins” as you call them horrified me. The photographer was able to do a bit of photoshopping and though I still looked like a big pregnant lady, at least I was happier with my face! Lol.

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    • Hi jholland,
      Thanks for your very kind reply! I’m probably going to take both dresses with me. Then there is the issue of what my hubby wears. Not wanting him to be in a clashing color, we’ll probably have him take two turtleneck sweaters and jackets. Decisions, decisions.Ha!
      And this particular photographer had taken my portrait years ago–for a community event award–and she did a great job! Hence our choosing her again. So, I’m hopeful about my chins photographic lessening. Ha!
      Hugs & Cheers! Grati ;->


  2. Kitty says:

    You cannot help but look beautiful @ your prince’s side, Dearest. Whenever I make disparaging comments about my own appearance in front of J, he says, “Please don’t say that about my beautiful wife.” He has seen me @ my worst, yet still sees me through the blindness of love. Isn’t it wonderful to be cherished! Wear those thoughts to your photo session and you’ll shine! It probably won’t hurt either if your hubby gives you a secret tweak on the “cheek” just as the photog takes aim and shoots ;)

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    • Awww. Thanks for your very kind thoughts, Kitty!
      I am hoping that apart from the posed shots, that the photographer might be able to capture my hubby and I in a “natural” way. Perhaps there might be one shot where we gaze into each others’ eyes. Sighhh!
      Though with my hubby being fourteen inches taller than I am–he is 6 ft 4 inches to my 5 ft 2 inches–he will definitely have to be sitting if we are to be in the same frame. Ha!
      Hugs & Cheers! Grati ;->


  3. Servetus says:

    I have no opinion, but I want to mention that your heirs will be happy you went to the trouble to have the picture made!

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    • Hi Servetus,
      Thanks for your nice note. I do hope that our nieces and nephews might tuck away our pictures in their scrapbooks–and look at us with fond remembrance long after we are gone.
      Hugs & Cheers! Grati ;->


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